I've had a lot of people ask how things went with our parents after we shared our infertility story with them. The short answer is.... great!
For so long, we (mostly me) were worried that there would be endless questions, awkward moments and enough pity for all of the infertiles of the world. We thought there would be opinions flying and judgements made. And to be honest, maybe there have been. Thankfully though, we haven't had to hear any of it.
We didn't go into extreme detail in our email, but we made it very clear it has been a very long, hard road with many treatments, fertility drugs, and dejected spirits. We were also abundantly clear that we hoped this wouldn't become a topic of conversation, and much to our surprise it hasn't. We asked that if they had questions they email them to us and allow us to decide together what we were willing to share. So far, not a single question. We received an initial email back from both sets of parents that was short, sweet and supportive of our choices for our family.
We saw both sets of parents last weekend for the first time since the email and although we did receive a slightly tighter hug upon arrival, a few thoughtful glances when families or babies were being talked about, in general it was business as usual.
For the moment, I am happy with our decision. We have their support if we need/want it, and more importantly we don't have to tip toe around anymore making excuses for not being able to make it to an event.
Honesty really is the best policy.