Tuesday, July 6, 2010

Again with the idiotic comments...

Remember this post? Well here are a few more that you might like all from that same person over the past couple of months.....(click the link for a little back story)

SHE SAID: "Just think about all of the stress you are avoiding by not having kids"
I SAID: "I'd take that stress ANYDAY"
WHAT I SHOULD HAVE SAID: Do you have an ounce of compassion in your entire body? Really? You know our situation, you are well aware of how painful it has been for both of us, why in the world would you say something so hurtful? While we are on the topic if your child induced "stress", lets talk about mine. I wake up at 5am EVERY MORNING put a thermometer in my mouth, pee on sticks more days of the month than I care to count, coax my husband to have sex with me after checking the status of the mucus that is come from my who-ha, you are right I am living quite the stress free life. Oh, and by the way we are not avoiding it- we are seeking it whole heartedly.

SHE SAID: "Well if it doesn't work out, maybe you are just meant to be a really great aunt."
I SAID: "It WILL happen"
WHAT I SHOULD HAVE SAID: Write down what you just said to me. Got it? Good, now NEVER say that to me EVER again.

SHE SAID: "Kids are no fun"
I SAID: Nothing, I was too busy feeling like she had just kicked me in the shin.
WHAT I SHOULD HAVE SAID: If you had babies because you thought they were going to be "fun" you should have bought a doll. And again, here is a piece of paper... write that down.

At what point do you call people out on the incredibly rude things they say, especially if they know your situation? We are going camping with this family at the end of the month, and I am already dreading it a little bit. I feel like at some point I am just going to have to bite the bullet and tell her how offensive her comments are, but I don't feel like I should have to. Are all fertile people idiots?

4 comments:

Mr. and Mrs. Raymond said...

I know just how you feel! I have one of "these" types of people in my life and I don't know how to respond to their comments! Luckily, most people are understanding of IF and atleast they are not rude, but every once in a while I meet a P.I.T.A. (pain in the ...) and I am stumped! Good luck dealing with yours, and stay strong!

jrs said...

I love your last "what I should have said" That would've been awesome.

And yes, most fertiles are idiots.

Angela said...

After one such incident of mine at work where I very politely told someone (who knows my whole story) to save the discussion for lunch, she went to my boss to complain about me. Seriously?? You're the one talking about personal business at work. To "make amends" I apologized to her, but my boss knows how I really feel. And sides with me.

I'm sorry you have a difficult person to deal with. Especially when she knows your story. I hope she straightens up soon!

Bobbi said...

Oh, I can add some idiotic comments to this...

"All you need to do is just stop stressing, then it'll happen."

Or...

"Have you thought that maybe Ella will be an only child?"

Or...the worst...

"Have you considered adoption?"

I enjoy the humor in your post! :)

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